Why A Wussy Never Gets The Girl
You're as sweet as possible... why does the jerk get the girl?
Rule #1
Sweet is great for candy and a rather select alcoholic beverages.
Sweet is not for single guys to date single women.
Sweet is common, sweet is regular.
Sweet is what is expected.
Sweet is what husbands are SUPPOSED to be after the wedding.
Sweet is manipulated by women. So don't be sweet.
Rule #2
It's OK to talk to girls as friends.
BUT it is not OK to talk to girls like you care about them like a girlfriend.
What I mean is... you have a friend that is a girl. She likes to tell you EVERYTHING about her life. Who she likes, who she dislikes... she's telling you about the guy's she dates, she's telling you all the reasons why she needs to break up with him (but she never does).
She cries on your shoulder for support because, you think, eventually she'll figure out how much you her. But you're too scared to talk to her about YOUR feelings, you just listen to hers.
And she tells you more about her jerk boyfriend. (He's the guy that punches you, gives you dirty looks... a real jerk.) And she tells you that she's thinking about breaking up with him.
And, sooner or later, she does. She's suddenly single.
And it takes you a couple of days to prepare yourself to ash her out, to tell her that you like her, more than as just a friend.
And, just as you have finally mustered up the courage to tell her, she tells you that now she's dating "So-and-so".
So you're JUST friends again. And she tells you about her new jerk boyfriend. And all her other troubles. And your heart is breaking.
So what did you do wrong?
You became "more than just a friend" without laying down the ground rules of the relationship. You're such a sweet little puppy of a guy that ANY attention was good attention, you figured.... but you were wrong. You ARE wrong.
It's true that even the water-boy get's on the field once in a while, but only the players PLAY.
Don't become her "girlfriend". Don't be afraid to say "You know, that sounds really deep, but I think another girl will understand it. I'm just a guy that wants a kiss."
Now, you may not get the kiss, but you certainly move yourself from almost certain "girlfriend" territory into being a possible boyfriend. So memorize that. You'll need it and you can thank me in just a bit.
Rule #3
If you're waiting for one girl to notice you, you should be hitting on another girl, a lot of other girls.
Nothing makes a guy more of a catch than the fact that another woman wants him.
So if you're sitting there, wondering where everything went so wrong, why you don't get the opportunity to date the girl you want - WAKE UP.
Life isn't fair, just like dating. Love isn't fair, just like life.
When you love somebody and they don't love you back... stop wasting those weeks, months, years.
MOVE ON and move up to another woman.
Stop WAITING for things to turn your way. STOP hoping for the CHANCE for her to see you in a boyfriend way.
MAKE things happen FOR YOURSELF.
Nobody else is going to help you if you aren't willing to make the first move towards being the type of guy that women want.
But, if you're willing to make that FIRST step, this is it.
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It's your move!
Your friend,
Robert Lee