Approaching Women, Kissing Women... And Even Stories About Lesbians! (part 2)
This Article: 27 year old virgin, What women really, really want, The Inner Man
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***QUESTION***
Hi David
Dave, I can safely say you've changed my life. I was once a 27 year old virgin, I know, extreme! I had never been on a date, and I had one girlfriend when I was 17.
And get this, I've been told by loads of women that I'm hot. The reason for this is my complete lack of confidence, I just had none. I would get eyed up in a bar, and want to go over, but I just didn't know what to say! If I was approached by a lady, I either froze up or shook so much that everyone in the room thought their cell phone was vibrating!
I just got up 1 day decided to go on the internet and learn! I really didn't think I would come across so much rubbish! But I signed up to all the free newsletters and I used techniques subtly with me female friends! Well as you've obviously guessed, your tips were the ticket! I bought the book and I was off.....
I am now 28, been using your techniques for about a year, year and a half.and I am so happy! I have girls coming out of my ears! I am now dating 3 women (very hot women) and I have 4 that wont leave me alone! I am emailing you to say thank you, I would really appreciate an email back if you don't post it on a newsletter, just so I know you've read it, or I might send it again knowing me!
Ok here's the question, I have heard similar questions so much on your newsletters but this is quite specific and a 'proper' answer would be great, rather than the default one!
Right, the one girl that I want is the one playing hard to get. I've played it cool so far, I knew her from work but didn't know her very well, she's now left and I saw her in a club and 'told' her to give me her number! I rang her but her phone is always off, so I sent her a text message (sms) asking if she fancies going for a coffee during the week. She replied that she's busy all week and she said that she has just got back with her ex and if I want to get to know her as a friend is my decision.
I REALLY like her, and she does not know this (because she doesn't
need to know). I am still a novice at the game so could you tell me
exactly what you would do and exactly what you would say? please
Thanks again
David D:
Well then... welcome to the world of being an adult man! Exciting. And I'm glad to hear that you're doing well with the ladies... FINALLY. Now, you want me to give you a "special" answer to your "special situation".
Let's see... You are surrounded by attractive women... and they're chasing you around like you're some kind of rock star... but you don't want THOSE women... of course. Nooooo...
You want the ONE who isn't interested in you... the one who just got back with her boyfriend. Before I give you a "special" answer, I'd like you to consider your own situation. Let's be honest, shall we?
Right now you are OUT OF CONTROL. You are not into this girl because she's actually that "special". You're into her because she's NOT INTO YOU. If you'll admit this to yourself, and admit that you're basically out of control in this situation, then we can make some progress. So admit it. Say it out loud.
"I'm out of control. I want this girl mostly because she doesn't want me... and it really fascinates the hell out of me... and I can't stop thinking about it." Just read that out loud. Read it again, just so you hear the words this time.
Think about it for a minute. You UNDERSTAND THIS STUFF! And it STILL works on YOU. That's profound.
And by the way, the more you try to "resist" the idea... and tell yourself that she's just a challenge and you only want her because she's "special", etc. the worse it will get.
So what should you do?
Hit the road.
Say "Next".
Move on.
Walk.
One of the best things you can do for YOURSELF is to get the number of an unusually attractive woman, then THROW IT AWAY. Why? Duh.
Because it's a symbol. It's you saying to yourself "I don't need ANY woman. I can go out and meet women anytime. I'm happy as I am." That kind of thing will help you, big time.
Now, if you REALLY REALLY REALLY don't want to take my advice... and you want to make yourself crazy some more, here's what to do:
1) Stop calling this girl for a couple of weeks.
2) Call her in two weeks and say "Hey, I have a question that I really need to ask you... call me".
3) When she calls, say "Yea, I wanted to ask you why it's taking you so long to call and ask me out...". Tell her about some beautiful and intelligent woman you've been dating, and then tell her that you'd like to get together with her and hang out as friends.
4) When you do see her, JUST BE FRIENDS. Chill out, and give her space.
5) Take the time and energy to actually get to know her as a person. Find out if she is really the kind of girl that you'd like to be with. Make a list of all the things that would make a "perfect" woman. Then make a list of all the things that would be "deal killers". Ask her all the questions when you meet her... and do it in a "friend" kind of way.
I'd be willing to bet you a dollar in cash that she is NOT AT ALL the kind of girl you really want to be with. On the other hand, if she IS your dream girl, lean back and take your time. Bust on her. Tease her. Make fun.
Tell her that you can't possibly understand how her boyfriend could stand her. Chances are that she won't be with this guy for long, and you will have now established that she's your dream girl... and you'll be ready to "pounce".
Moral? Just get on with your life, man. You're talking like a Wuss who's trying to pretend that he's not. My Wuss-Dar is going off like 4th of July fireworks.
***COMMENTS FROM A WOMAN***
Hi Dave!
I'm a quite hot 25 year old (or so I've been told many times...) woman who's been in a relationship for several years & a few months ago my boyfriend "mysteriously" started receiving your newsletter. Now he says he doesn't read the stuff (with the way he acts I believe him) but I wish he did!!! I have to say that I'm considering ending my relationship since he's become such a wuss (he didn't used to be) I greatly enjoy reading your stuff and to all the guys out there, C & F IS THE BEST WAY TO GET WOMEN, I should know being one myself. (Also a challenge, well uh... for me, is always very nice)
Keep up the terrific work & maybe one day all women will have great
men
B, Montreal
David D:
I'll tell you what... when you do leave the dumb-ass (and you will,
I can hear that you've already made the decision in your heart...
and
you're just trying to rationalize it now) make sure and email me
again. I can guarantee you that I'LL READ THESE NEWSLETTERS.
Kiss Kiss,
D.
***SUCCESS STORY***
David,
It is amazing how some good advice and a simple change of attitude
can make such a difference in your life. I am in my late forties and
have been physically disabled from birth. (I use a wheelchair to get
around.) Throughout my history with women, I have always been the
"friend."
I've always been a shoulder to cry on and never the face to sit on! Well, my new best friend, after reading your e-book, my whole world changed. I've always been a little cocky, and humor comes naturally to me. Let's face it, cocky + funny = Smart Ass, more or less.
My concern was getting punched in the head. But as it turns out, the women who get what I'm doing, are the ones I'm attracted to. If I brought to my home every woman that has given me her number, I would have time for little else.
I tried to make this one paragraph. Sorry, can't do it. After realizing that most women love a bad boy, I became one, saying and doing things I would never say or do before.
IT REALLY WORKS! I have no questions for you, Dave. I just want to tell the readers of your newsletter to get your e-book, videos, audios, whatever, and then practice.
Thanks, David.
c.
Anchorage, AK
David D:
Thanks for your email. I have to say something that's probably not very politically correct... but here goes... I've done a few seminars around the USA over the past two years. Each one has been an experience...
And at each one something VERY interesting happens. When we break for lunch or break at the end of the day, I always have guys come up and talk to me. Sometimes one of the guys who comes up to talk to me has an obvious "physical challenge" of some type or another... and it's obvious enough that I mentally think to myself "OK, he's going to ask me how to overcome his challenge with women".
And guess what? MOST of the time, this isn't true at all. In fact, I would say that most of the guys who have come up to talk to me who have "obvious" physical challenges say things like "I'm already successful with women... but I have this one question".
It has blown my mind. My own realization is that the reality of women being attracted to the INNER MAN is even MORE TRUE than even I thought. Thanks for your email, and good work.
***QUESTION***
I happen to get two best female friends. How do I choose one?
David D:
Pick the one with the most money.
***SUCCESS STORY***
Hi David,
I am 50, look good and always got the women I wanted....but was always scared sh**less when I wanted to approach a woman I see and wanted to meet, but didn't know how to approach her. Since I apply your ideas though my fear is gone. It works like magic.
Till now I am not telling you anything new. But listen what happened a short while ago. A friend of mine has this daughter who I have known for years. She is a lesbian (40), so of course we have just been friends.
We live far apart now and she asked me if she could stay with me while on vacation and bring her 22 year young nubile girlfriend. I agreed and they arrive a month later.
This girlfriend turns out to be a goddess. So I remember your lessons and I totally bust this girls' balls (Is that the right expression? Sounds weird.
English is not my native tongue). For some reason, although she is lesbian, I notice that she wants me to find her attractive.
But I tell her (her friend is there too) that she is too young for me, I don't like blonds, bla bla bla. I am calm and use a subtle smile when I deliver the messages. She goes nuts and becomes more and more aggressive, because normally guys are all over her. Logical, because she is gorgeous.
But I keep ignoring her and give a lot of attention to her girlfriend. I treat her like a little girl, who is not really seen by me as an adult. (Of course I want to bed her, but I don't want to get into a fight with the other, who is really a good friend of mine. So I dismiss the possibility altogether.)
Then she comes to me (after a few days) saying that she never did it with a guy, but that I am the chosen one to experience that 'penetration - thing ' that she misses in the sex with her girlfriend. (I kid you not! )
Her girlfriend is there when she tells me this and her girlfriend admits that she is also curious and that they discussed this the night before and want to offer me a menage-a-trois.
The rest is history.
By the way, I use that line a lot now ('that they are too young for me') with younger women. They go crazy. And the older the are, the better it works. I even tell 'girls' of 30 this and then they seem to need to show how 'adult' they are, also in the bedroom.
Thanks again for your ideas. It is great stuff. It even works on
lesbians!!!
G.
David D:
I can't type. I am sitting in a reverent pose, head bowed to you. I think I can speak for all fellow men when I say: "You suck, and all men wish they were you." Powerful male energy has that effect... and now you have seen it first hand.
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A woman doesn't have to LIKE you to feel ATTRACTION for you. The ATTRACTION happens on its own... regardless of other things happening at the same time. Certain traits and communication techniques trigger ATTRACTION... and if you know what they are, and how to amplify them, then you can create results that will literally seem like MAGIC to others watching.
And if you haven't downloaded my online ebook "Double Your Dating" yet, then what are you waiting for? Go get it! You can download it right now and be reading it within a few minutes... download it here.