Calling To Ask A Woman Out (part 2)
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And the GOOD NEWS is that this stuff is not only good for you, it also helps you get even MORE dates with interesting women. So here's what to do about this particular problem:
1) Get more options.
If you go out one evening with a couple of friends, and you meet a REALLY hot girl... and you wind up having a fun conversation, and getting her number, what should you do? RIGHT! Go get at least ONE MORE girl's number.
More, if you can.
This way, when you're picking up the phone to call (or sending out
emails, or whatever), you've got another woman to call right after
her...
In other words, if it doesn't go well, no big deal. No sweat at all. Instead of putting all your "hopes" in this one situation, go get more options... this will prevent many problems, as well as giving you more women to date!
And think about it... when are you MOST likely to get a woman's phone number? When are you the most likely to be in a great mood that actually ATTRACTS women? Exactly... in the moments after you've already gotten another woman's number. So take advantage of this time!
2) Dial the phone expecting it to NOT work out with this girl.
I have news for you: Most women have something about their personality, behavior, future plans, etc. that is going to disqualify them from being good "potential mates" for you. Now, I'm not saying that "all women are screwed up", etc. What I AM saying is that you need to realize that the only reason you're freaking out so much is because your EMOTIONS are running the show.
You need to think about how rare it is that you actually meet a girl that is COMPATIBLE with you... that you'd enjoy spending time with even if she wasn't good-looking. If you have this in mind as you're dialing the phone, you won't have that "I'm desperate" vibe going on.
You won't be talking like a guy who has a gun to his head, either... which is a good thing... because women get weirded-out by this kind of thing.
3) Instead of asking a woman out, tell her what you're doing, and then tell her she can come along if she wants.
Why is "asking a woman out" early on a bad idea? Because if you don't have a world-class understanding of male/female dynamics, you're going to come across as a guy who is trying to use food as date-bait.
In other words, if the first thing out of your mouth is "I'd like
to take you out to dinner" it's going to be interpreted as "I don't
think you're probably going to accept an invitation to spend time
with me unless I throw in something extra...".
Weak.
And that's how SHE sees it.
The alternative? Tell her that you're going to be doing something, and that she should join you. "Hey, I'm going to go down to Starbucks and get a cup of tea. You should join me. I'm way more fun than whatever else you were going to do... and that's a fact!"
Extra bonus points:
Hint that she's missing out if she doesn't accept immediately. If she hems and haws, or hesitates... just interrupt and say "Hey, you're the one who's missing out".
I also like "You know, never mind. I guess you don't like to have fun...".
Great stuff!
This is solid Cocky & Funny material, and it's the right time to use it.
You know, I personally used to get VERY freaked out when calling women for the first time on the phone... and "asking them out". Now that I understand this particular "moment in time" better, and now that I understand more of the "dynamics" of what's going on, I get MUCH better results personally...
In fact, I never get "nervous" anymore when calling women, and I rarely if EVER have a woman "flake out" on me. Now, in this newsletter I've shared a few points to help you get better results in this particular area. Use them. They'll definitely help you.
You should read this newsletter right before you call every one of the next 10 women you meet... in fact. But as you can probably tell, this is just one of MANY important facets of success with women. In fact, this is just scratching the surface of the skills you'll need if you want to have CONSISTENT success with the most DESIRABLE women.
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