How To Know If She's Interested (part 2)
This Article: The cocky and funny man, How to get the second date, More than being good looking
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How To Know If She's Interested... Plus How To Meet Hot 'L.A.' Type Women, And Other Interesting Topics
***QUESTION***
"Hi, this maybe a dumb question but what does "cocky" mean and can
you provide me some examples.
Thanks,
R.
David D:
The formula is:
COCKY+FUNNY
Cocky alone is not attractive. Arrogance repels people like bad breath. But a FUNNY arrogance... Ahhh, that's the stuff that miracles are made of. The cocky man says "You are acting like a little girl, and it's annoying me."
The cocky+FUNNY man says "If you keep acting like a brat I'm going
to spank you like a red-headed step-child." (The usual response is "Ooohhh,
be careful, I might like that.) No, really.
A cocky+funny man is always on the lookout for an opportunity to
show off his arrogant humor.
She gives a compliment on the clothing... Cocky+Funny Man says:
"I just met you and you're already starting with the compliments. Look, I'm not going home with you. I'm not that easy." I've just placed a pearl of wisdom before you. If I were you, I'd pick it up, look at it from many angles, and improvise variations. This is magic waiting to happen.
***QUESTION***
"HEY DAVE! I have a teensy weensy little questions for you, but first I'd like to say that your book kicks serious butt!! I have had more luck with women since I got it... Not that I really needed it or anything, (cough cough) ahem! Anyways, now to my question.
1) I know how to be cocky, I know how to be funny, I treat women the special attractive way they should be treated... but I have no clue whatsoever as to what signs a woman will give off when she is feeling attracted, I keep doing silly, stupid things like um... backing off afterward 'cause I'm not sure what her reaction meant, which I am positive is a problem.
So if you could help me here I would be most obliged
J."
David D:
The main sign that a woman gives off is VERY simple to spot: SHE KEEPS TALKING TO YOU.
You can stop clapping. I know it was profound. But really, if a
woman isn't interested, she won't keep talking to you. She'll start
looking around, acting bored out of her skull, or moving around in
an uncomfortable manner. The first minute or two is often like this
anyway
as two people begin a conversation... but if it continues past about
3-5 minutes, you need to move on and try to be a little less boring
with the next girl!
I knew you would find my answer profound... but if you're still waiting for her to tilt her head, lick her lips, and twirl her hair then you need to stop reading books published by guys that have nothing better to do than spend 25 years watching people in bars and writing down what they do.
It's simple:
1) Meet girl
2) Get email and number
3) Invite for tea and stimulating conversation
4) Meet and tease, be cocky and funny
5) If she's not psycho, invite her over
6) Use The Kiss Test
7) Don't screw it up!
I may have oversimplified a bit here, but I think you get the idea. Don't worry about what she's thinking... just do what you know is ATTRACTIVE, and then lead. Things will work themselves out if you keep doing the right things.
***COMMENT ON A PREVIOUS MAILBAG***
[QUOTE FROM PREVIOUS MAILBAG]:
"I have a strong sense, though, that a 37-year-old guy approaching a
23-year-old girl (or anyone under 28, say) would be looked on with
suspicion by the girl..."
OK! hold it right there! With that attitude, what's to say our bro won't be stopped by some other smokescreen objection!!! (too tall, too short, too blond, too dark-haired, etc...."not her type", "too nice"... whatever)
I am a 52-yr.old, VERY average-looking guy, who last month successfully [approached] a 23-y.o. cutie, and she effectively wound up asking me out and she was the one to first mention the word "sex". How? I think the words "cocky and funny" say it all. Come to think of it, I don't think I can recall ever scoring without coming across that way. (BTW, I don't ordinarily favor that age group, but she was pretty mature for her age.)
David D:
Us guys have this amazing ability to come up with reasons why things won't work... but we forget that TRYING CARRIES ALMOST ZERO RISK, AND A HUGE UPSIDE RETURN ON INVESTMENT IF WE SUCCEED.
I can remember looking women all night in bars and coming up with all kinds of reasons why they probably wouldn't want to talk to me... they probably had a boyfriend... they were busy with friends... they were gay (hey, wait a minute... that's cool Beavis)...
Just get over your imaginary failure scenarios and DO SOMETHING. Having a girl say "Oh, no thanks, I'm in a relationship" isn't that bad, you know. Women are usually flattered when they pass... really. So stop making up reasons why you should fail, and start making up reasons why you should succeed. Things seem to work much better that way.
***SUCCESS STORY/QUESTION***
"David,
Been reading your newsletter, and bought your book. I've read it once and will read it again for better comprehension.
Success Story:
In the meantime, I've been putting into practice what you teach. I
wanted to share this success story with your readers, as an example
of how well this stuff can work.
At a bar with a bunch of friends for a stag party. Took the stag-boy around the bar to get his t-shirt signed by all the women (this is a great way to meet and talk with every woman in the bar). Anyway, later I saw a blonde that I had talked to earlier. She was talking with 3 guys. I went over and tapped her on the shoulder and said "Hey can I talk with you a minute?" and walked away about 10 feet.
She came over, I used your email/phone # material, and gave her pen and paper to write it down. You should have seen the looks on the faces of the three guys who were just talking to her. It was worth it just for that. I got 4 numbers that night and have been out with 2 of those women.
Question:
Like many other guys who write you, I've been trying to develop the
cocky-funny attitude. I've watched most of the comedians and movies
you suggested in your book. I'm working hard on this but it's just
moving along slowly.
Now that getting emails/numbers isn't a problem, and even getting dates (although I know I could do better if I was more cocky-funny) is now more possible, I now have run into a whole new problem: how to create tension/tease/act cocky-funny on the first date so that SHE calls ME for the second date (hopefully cooking a meal at her place).
Anything you suggest for us guys at this stage of our learning that
isn't already in your book would be most helpful.
Thanks,
S."
David D:
You're doin' great... and you'll figure it out as you go. One of the best things you can do is to take out a pen and paper, and write down the ten most common situations that you find yourself in, then write down some cocky, funny lines to use.
For instance, you might write:
End Of Date
1) Say to her "Now don't call me three times a day... I had fun too, but no stalking"
2) Kiss her and say "Call me"
3) Tell her "I'm busy tomorrow, but if you tempt me with a good enough offer, I might make time for you the next night..."
Are you feelin' me?
Just work out the different situations on paper first, then do them
in real life. You're on the right track...
***SUCCESS STORY***
"David,
You've guessed it - the magic formula is working. I went for 10 years with only 3 women, and in the last 3 months, since I read the book, I've slept with 3 more. The C&F theory is 100%.
I picked up one girl at supermarket, got her email, sent her an email, got a date, left early ("got to go - too busy, sorry...", waited 10 days, got another date, asked her if she'd like to see me again, told her "I think you should, because I'm almost perfect" (she laughed), kissed her and you can guess the rest...
This stuff is dynamite. I'm
a good looking, successful 36 year old (separated), but I act an
idiot in front of women - or used to. Now I feel *totally* in
control, and am enjoying playing with your ideas. Spot on!
D."
David D:
Isn't it amazing what a little attitude adjustment can do? I appreciate your email because a lot of guys don't realize that JUST BEING GOOD LOOKING doesn't do it. In fact, I know more average looking guys who are successful with women that "good looking" guys who are. Funny, isn't it?
Actually, it's COCKY and funny. Ba-Dum-Bum.
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